#guide – Aphorism with Abhishek

Hey all! Welcome to my blog. Today I’m going to discuss “happiness” and my personal guide to achieving it.

For a person like me, the ultimate goal in life is happiness. Be it in studies, blogging, relationships, hobbies …I strive to find happiness. It all started a long way back when I wondered what does real happiness really means? Was it something good that will happen to me in the future, or all the good things that have happened to me in the past? Then I said, no! Happiness ain’t about the past or future events. Happiness should be here and now, who I am now, with the people I’m with now, doing the things I’m doing now.

So here’s the real trick. Take action to do the things that make you happy, with the people who make you happy, and to be happy with the person you are now.

Let’s dig deeper and explore the branches of the tree.

Pick one or two and start today.

Make your mental health a priority.
Your inner peace a priority.
Your self-care a priority.
Your happiness a priority.

Don’t take yourself for granted. Nourish and reflect on all parts of yourself that needs healing and self-love. Be patient and kind during the process.

Remember It’s easy to:

Complain
Blame
Lie
Cheat
Pretend

It’s hard to:

Inspire
Mentor
Help
Learn
Give

Do the hard work. Shine.

Are you an overthinker?

Overthinking is the biggest cause of our unhappiness. Keep yourself occupied. Keep your mind off things that don’t help you. Think positive.

Are you a dreamer?

That’s good! Life stops when you stop dreaming. Hope ends when you stop believing. Love ends when you stop caring. Friendship ends when you stop sharing.

Do you believe?

Good things come to those who believe, better things come to those who are patient, and the best things come to those who don’t give up.

Money?

Ah, money, right! Let me tell you my views on this.

Yeah, money is important. Go work for it. I’m going to deny the fact that money can’t buy you happiness. Yes, it can! You should always have a financial freedom to buy things that you wish, the materialistic things that you’re crazy about, things that give you happiness. But still,

Buying the most expensive snacks from a shop, coming home, eating it will surely be nice…
But it can never replace,
Coming home after a tiring day at work/school and getting hot Samosas(Indian snack) made by your mom served with lots of love just for you kind of feeling.

Buying the most expensive mobile available in the market is of no point if you don’t have someone special to ask you how are you doing…

But but… There’s always a but, I suppose

The other day I met an old lady while traveling through the train during my internship last semester. I was sitting on the station bench and using some high-speed wi-fi when she came and patted on my shoulder.

“Baba I’m hungry please give me some food” I raised my head and realized what my friend who travels daily by train said to me “Dude don’t give money to beggars on railway station or train. Begging is a profession with a career just like any other. So beware of them” But then something happened. The inner me was not accepting the fact that the old lady is a professional beggar or she had a career in it. The look on her pale face made me so sad that I stood and said to her ” Amma wait here. I’ll be back in a minute ” I went to a nearby food shop and bought a fully packed meal for her and a bottle of water. All this took less than 100 rupees.
You can imagine the happiness on her face. I’m sure you can!
The point is, if I didn’t have money, in the first place, I wouldn’t have been able to buy the old lady some food, which would, in turn, have made me miss the experience of “Happiness”, that I did experience on that day.

Later that day, I discussed the whole thing with my family at dinner. Mom and dad were so proud and happy of course. They said “Shabash, Beta! You did well”.

So you see a small event or act of kindness created a series of happiness in many lives. Money too played a crucial part there.

Everyday Commitments?

Yes! It’s a wonderful idea according to me. Plan your short-term as well as long-term goals.

Every single day you should wake up and commit yourself to become a better person. A kind one. A gentleman.

Last but not least :

Never stop learning.
Keep a good friend circle. Beware of the fake ones.
Spend quality time with your family. This matters the most.
On weekends try your best to socialize and explore the outdoors.
Read quality books(biographies/fictions/comics whatever makes you happy).
Watch good movies.
Eat healthy food.
A light workout every day.
Stay away from strong emotions like anger.
Maintain a journal.
Pray. Don’t be an atheist!

Thanks for reading! I hope if you try some of these tips you’ll definitely start enjoying the life more beautifully. Trust me I’ve tried this and have seen myself grow my senses and mind aesthetically. I can happily say that I’m alive. I’m happy!

Pic credits: Pinterest

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